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Since Terry’s Book “The Myth of Self Esteem: 50 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself” hit the shelves, people can’t stop talking about how life changing it is.
Book review by Rob Grogan, Front Porch Fredericksburg Magazine
It is a rare treat to sit and converse with a person who listens to you as well as reflects on herself and openly talks with you. Perhaps it’s because Terry Diebold is a licensed marriage and family therapist or an ordained minister. Maybe it comes from being a friend of Eileen Boyd, who introduced us. Heck, it could be the comfortable setting upstairs at The Griffin, where Terry and I sat around a coffee table on a sofa and had a cup of Joe together amidst shelves of books, Terry’s being one of the hundreds of titles available at Eileen’s bookstore and coffee bar. It might be all of that. Whatever the cause, the effect was inspiring and long-lasting.
Terry and I spoke a little bit about her book [which has received rave reviews from the psychiatric and education communities] and much more about people in general, human nature, and raising children. She reiterated what my brother-in-law, Dr. James Corry, had advised me when my wife and I began to raise our daughter: “Don’t dote over every little thing she does.” Set parameters, create high expectations, don’t inflate or deflate her self-esteem – all those messages came through from Terry, too. Want a practical example?
Your child draws a picture and you say it’s perfect. Good job, Mom, right? Wrong. Try something like, “That’s interesting, tell me what you think of it and what it means to you.” See, it could be that he thinks it stinks or he did it hurriedly and easily. You sure you want to label that as “perfect”? Ah ha! This parenting thing ain’t easy. There are thousands of nuances to deal with daily. Terry’s book will help you through it.
“Myth” is a book with great depth of thought. The author discusses such topics as failure; the soul and spirit; independence; passion and creativity, the family; the universe and love; the need to rest; the mistake of faint praise; and, the journey we call work. Her book disputes assumptions about relationships, child development, personal responsibility, and the messages we give and take on a daily basis. Terry’s background solidifies her voice of knowledge and reason. She has taught creative writing at the university level; is presently a psychotherapist [and founder of the Center for Family Counseling in Fredericksburg]; a parish associate with the Presbyterian Church of Fredericksburg; and, a conflict management specialist.
I was never big on how-to books but this one is a worthy read. It makes you think – not a bad exercise in good use of your time – instead of talk, assume and repeat what’s familiar but not necessarily true! Get the book at The Griffin, 723 Caroline Street, and visit Terry's website.
Read this book review at www.frontporchfredericksburg.com.
Book Review by Melanie Yost, Owner, Personal Development Unlimited
“I LOVED the book!
Buy your copy today! "The Myth of Self Esteem"
"I just finished chapter 3 'Soul and Spirit' and used my highlighter so many times I stopped counting." ~ Marcia G., Santa Barbra, CA
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"Terry Diebold is an experienced psychotherapist who offers a spiritually based view of “self-esteem” that finally incorporates the new disciplines of emotional intelligence, holistic healing, and spiritual growth." ~ Dr. Murry Cohen, Psychiatrist, Fredericksburg, VA
"This book was so well-written that I found myself wanting to quote exerpts. In an effectively moving way it debunks the myth of self-esteem and leaves the reader with a feeling of empowerment. Terry Diebold has written a book that is bold, poignant, and at times so funny, I laughed out loud. I cannot wait to give this book to all my clients." ~ Dr. Delise Dickard, Ed.D.
"I just bought 7 more copies to give to my friends!" ~ Lori T., Traverse City, MI
"I thought you'd like to know what a good influence your book was on me. After getting into your book I concluded it was time for me to accept this challenge of an idea I've had for a small business. So I applied for my business license and hope to have a pamphlet out by November 15. And I have you to thank for your thought provoking book without which I think I would have not gone this way." ~ Colleen H., Bishop, CA
YES! I want my own copy of "The Myth of Self Esteem!" |
I read it all in the same night and found it fascinating! You are a brilliant writer, and I was moved by every chapter. Reading the book, I felt as if we were having a conversation....it was so you--spiritual, down to earth, sensible, funny, focused, and academically sound. I appreciated the references to and quotes from sources such as Emotional Intelligence (one of my favorite books) and Thomas Moore, among others. So many different parts will be helpful to people I plan to give the book to.....e.g. the praise section for grandchildren, the value of work for son, and more..... The chapter on Phantom Thinking was exceptional. It's unique to be given a tool such as your test with specific strategies, rather than banal generalities. I also found chapter 6 on creativity beautiful....and so true....I love how you can come to a -- or the -- point so clearly. Your writing and communication abilities are a gift as well.” ~ Joanne C., Charleston, SC
