Book Review Buzz
Since Terry’s Book The Myth of Self Esteem: 50 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself hit the shelves, people can’t stop talking about how life changing and easy to read this book is.
Book review by Rob Grogan, Front Porch Fredericksburg Magazine
It is a rare treat to sit and converse with a person who listens to you as well as reflects on herself and openly talks with you. Perhaps it’s because Terry Diebold is a licensed marriage and family therapist or an ordained minister. Maybe it comes from being a friend of Eileen Boyd, who introduced us. Heck, it could be the comfortable setting upstairs at The Griffin, where Terry and I sat around a coffee table on a sofa and had a cup of Joe together amidst shelves of books, Terry’s being one of the hundreds of titles available at Eileen’s bookstore and coffee bar. It might be all of that. Whatever the cause, the effect was inspiring and long-lasting.
Terry and I spoke a little bit about her book [which has received rave reviews from the psychiatric and education communities] and much more about people in general, human nature, and raising children. She reiterated what my brother-in-law, Dr. James Corry, had advised me when my wife and I began to raise our daughter: “Don’t dote over every little thing she does.” Set parameters, create high expectations, don’t inflate or deflate her self-esteem – all those messages came through from Terry, too. Want a practical example?
Your child draws a picture and you say it’s perfect. Good job, Mom, right? Wrong. Try something like, “That’s interesting, tell me what you think of it and what it means to you.” See, it could be that he thinks it stinks or he did it hurriedly and easily. You sure you want to label that as “perfect”? Ah ha! This parenting thing ain’t easy. There are thousands of nuances to deal with daily. Terry’s book will help you through it.
“Myth” is a book with great depth of thought. The author discusses such topics as failure; the soul and spirit; independence; passion and creativity, the family; the universe and love; the need to rest; the mistake of faint praise; and, the journey we call work. Her book disputes assumptions about relationships, child development, personal responsibility, and the messages we give and take on a daily basis. Terry’s background solidifies her voice of knowledge and reason. She has taught creative writing at the university level; is presently a psychotherapist [and founder of the Center for Family Counseling in Fredericksburg]; a parish associate with the Presbyterian Church of Fredericksburg; and, a conflict management specialist.
I was never big on how-to books but this one is a worthy read. It makes you think – not a bad exercise in good use of your time – instead of talk, assume and repeat what’s familiar but not necessarily true! Get the book at The Griffin, 723 Caroline Street, and visit Terry’s website.
Courtesy of www.frontporchfredericksburg.com.
Book Review by Melanie Yost, Owner, Personal Development Unlimited
“The Myth of Self-Esteem is an essential book for everyone to read. I whole-heartedly recommended it to all of my clients. Terry Diebold expertly dismisses the damaging message promoted by pop-culture and armchair therapists that if you sometimes feel bad, or fail, then you have low self-esteem. Terry is a phenomenal psychotherapist. She brings her years of experience and broad knowledge base to her readers, touching on those oft-ignored aspects of our lives we don’t want to acknowledge, those times we feel doubt, shame or fear. She lets us know both humorously and compassionately, that to make a mistake or to be disappointed in ourselves and our behavior is how we come into our deeper selves. She gives us permission to be compassionate with ourselves. Self confidence is real – self esteem is a myth. This book is a wonderful gift for all of the people you love, beginning with yourself.” ~ Melanie Yost
“I LOVED the book!
I read it all in the same night and found it fascinating! You are a brilliant writer, and I was moved by every chapter. Reading the book, I felt as if we were having a conversation….it was so you–spiritual, down to earth, sensible, funny, focused, and academically sound. I appreciated the references to and quotes from sources such as Emotional Intelligence (one of my favorite books) and Thomas Moore, among others. So many different parts will be helpful to people I plan to give the book to…..e.g. the praise section for grandchildren, the value of work for son, and more….. The chapter on Phantom Thinking was exceptional. It’s unique to be given a tool such as your test with specific strategies, rather than banal generalities. I also found chapter 6 on creativity beautiful….and so true….I love how you can come to a — or the — point so clearly. Your writing and communication abilities are a gift as well.” ~ Joanne C., Charleston, SC
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The Myth of Self Esteem
“I just finished chapter 3…
“I just finished chapter 3 ‘Soul and Spirit’ and used my highlighter so many times I stopped counting.” ~ Marcia G., Santa Barbra, CA
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“Terry Diebold is an experienced psychotherapist…
“Terry Diebold is an experienced psychotherapist who offers a spiritually based view of “self-esteem” that finally incorporates the new disciplines of emotional intelligence, holistic healing, and spiritual growth.” ~ Dr. Murry Cohen, Psychiatrist, Fredericksburg, VA
“This book was so well-written…
“This book was so well-written that I found myself wanting to quote exerpts. In an effectively moving way it debunks the myth of self-esteem and leaves the reader with a feeling of empowerment. Terry Diebold has written a book that is bold, poignant, and at times so funny, I laughed out loud. I cannot wait to give this book to all my clients.” ~ Dr. Delise Dickard, Ed.D.
“I just bought 7 more copies to give to my friends!” ~ Lori T., Traverse City, MI
“I thought you’d like to know what a good influence your book was on me.
“I thought you’d like to know what a good influence your book was on me. After getting into your book I concluded it was time for me to accept this challenge of an idea I’ve had for a small business. So I applied for my business license and hope to have a pamphlet out by November 15. And I have you to thank for your thought provoking book without which I think I would have not gone this way.” ~ Colleen H., Bishop, CA
5 out of 5 Stars
Terry Diebold’s book gives the power to recognize that our self-esteem is the key to how our lives unfold. Establishing the root of negative feelings about ourselves and taking the necessary steps to change those thought patterns helped me make profound changes in my life. Using spirituality, comedy, enlightening observations and personal experience, Terry sheds light on why we think like we do and what WE can do about it. Thanks, Terry for opening my eyes so that I could see that light and run with it. ~ Lisa H.
Change Your Life – Read Terry’s book
What an amazing book. If you want to change your thoughts and improve your life you have to read The Myth of Self Esteem. So many of us struggle with events in our lives and we can’t figure out why. Without even trying, we sabotage ourselves. Terry’s book changed my thought patterns, my attitude and my outlook. This is just what the doctor ordered! Don’t wait any longer…order it today and be ready for a reality check.
Great information and easy to read!
I didn’t realize that I was still dealing with self esteem issues. I thought I was doing okay. This book helped me realize that in very subtle ways I was sabotaging myself. The book also tells you ways to stop the sabotage. It is written in a style where it feels as if you are sitting across the table from a friend sharing a cup of coffee! ~ Teri B.
We work with a lot of children who are so indulged… it’s good to see something make some good sense in parenting and life! ~ J. Beaudoin
Great gift, Starting with Yourself!
The Myth of Self Esteem is an essential book for everyone to read. I wholeheartedly recommended it to all of my clients. Terry Diebold expertly dismisses the damaging message promoted by pop-culture and armchair therapists that if you feel bad sometimes, make a mistake or have a bad hair day, then you have low self esteem. Terry is a phenomenal psychotherapist. She brings her years of experience and broad knowledge base to her readers, touching on all aspects of our lives in which we may feel doubt, shame or fear. She lets us know, in her humorous and compassionate way, that it is okay to have a bad day, to make a mistake and to be disappointed in ourselves and our behavior. That is how we grow and learn. She gives us permission to be compassionate with ourselves. Self confidence is real – self esteem is a myth. This book is a wonderful gift for all of the people you love, beginning with yourself. ~ Melanie Y.